first comes love, then comes marriage, then ...

Then..nothing.

Not for a while..

Not now...

Maybe not ever.....

But we shall wait and see.

I'm sure you've seen this before: two people fall in love, then they get married. The next thing they do is... to have a baby. For some people, they may not have fallen in love with the other person before creating a baby. For some people, the sequence may be a bit different.

Well, for Mr. JB and I, we know where we stand in regards to babies: we don't want any. For now. I said "for now" because we can change our minds later. We reserve the rights to change our minds whenever we please. But the thought of having a baby is scary. For both of us. Maybe we feel this way because we don't feel financially ready. Or because we don't know what stress the marriage will bring. Or because we don't know what kind of stress a baby will bring. And imagine all the hormones. Ahhh!!!

I have 2 nieces and 1 nephew. Mr. JB has 2 nieces and 2 nephews. And we love them. But after visiting them or them visiting us, we'd like them to go home to their parents. We love them but we also love our peace and quiet. We want to be able to just get up and go somewhere -- whether it's a short day trip or a long vacation. We don't feel like we're well traveled and we definitely want to travel to all the places BEFORE it's too late.

You know how Mr. JB and I have three loves -- Princess Bashee, Princess Skittles, and Prince Brandon. Well, planning this two weeks vacation for us (for our wedding/honeymoon) was a bit hard because we wanted them to be with someone that was going to treat them (translation: spoil them) like we do. Also, we spend a lot of our money on them, to buy treats, toys, and all other "necessities". Of course, we don't mind because they are all we have.

And imagine if we had a human kid. We won't be able to spend as much time with our three loves because our attention will be on the human kid. And it won't be fair to my three loves at all. Also, having a human kid will put a damper on our wallet. For our three loves, if we don't buy them treats, they are okay. But if we don't have the money to buy formula or diapers, the human kid would be considered neglected. And if we wanted to go on a trip, who will take care of our human kid? We can't just leave him/her with the grandparents. These grandparents have their own lives too. For our three loves, it's true that they are going to be with someone while we go on vacation but these people don't really have to change their lives just to take care of them. I guess we can just take the human kid with us on the trip with us. But that would mean, more luggages and more moola.

I also have to say: I thought I was going to have a "let's have a baby" moment when my niece (my sister's kid) was delivered since I was close to my sister during her pregnancy. But none what-so-ever.

But of course, we can't saying everything with certainty. There might be a time when we may change our mind. And we reserve the right to. But for now, we will say "no kids, please!"