A nice way to end the day?

Well, today was the day we were taking our kids to their sitters. And you remember how I told you I was having an "off" day? Well....this was no exception either.

We walked them at their favorite park. Thank goodness the weather was nice since they just got their bath on Sunday. Right after the park, we picked up my SIL at her house to take her 4-legged kid (Brownie) and ours to my cousin's. We walked in their yard and was settling in. Our kids were running around, sniffing, peeing, pooing -- things they do best. Then, it happened.....my Bran growled at one of my cousin's dogs.

My cousin has two dogs -- Billy and Teddy. Both of them are sweet and are smaller than Brandon. They're very cute. BUT they're HUMPERS. Serious humpers! Well, you know what happened, don't you? Teddy kept humping and of course that made Brandon very mad. That led to my cousin's husband (cousin-in-law aka CIL) to get upset at Brandon.

I kept my eyes on Brandon the whole time I was there. I didn't want him to be at fault for any reason. I noticed that wherever Brandon went, Teddy followed and tried to hump him. Brandon got mad. And then, he growled at Teddy. But this growl got CIL upset and he spoke up to say something to the effect of "well, that's it, Brandon can't stay here." I understood what he was feeling and saying. Eh..HELLO. I do pet sitting. Of course I knew what it's like to have a dog that doesn't get along with your dog to be over at the house. I knew something didn't feel right when he walked away the first time Brandon growled and I had to put Brandon on a time out. I thought it was my yelling that ticked him off. I kept asking my cousin in Burmese what was up and if it was okay to let Brandon stay. She said "Oh, CIL just might have gotten a headache" and "let's see". It was more like a "let's see how the dogs interact...and it's also a good thing for Brandon to say NO to Teddy".

Anyway, a few more minutes passed and it happened again. And some words came out of CIL ... (including some cursing) I was just shocked. I don't know if it was the words he chose, the way he said it, the way he made me feel by rejecting my son, his actions... I don't know. But I was just VERY VERY hurt. I held Brandon tight and just held him. Tears started to come down and I really couldn't help myself. What the heck just happened? Then, I told Mr. JB to get all of our things together so that we can leave. Then CIL said "Oh, Bashee can stay here! She's not the problem." I was shocked again. My son is the problem? My son is THAT dog -- the one that no body wants to babysit because he's bad??? I can't believe it. I'm still at a state of shock.

All I know is that I hugged my little Princess Bash good bye and took my Brandon home to my mom's. Of course, I cried my eyes out. And still did when we got home. I should point out that through this whole thing, my cousin was still being sweet. I know she was worried about Brandon -- she asked for Brandon's medical records so that she can take him to a boarding place where her dogs used to stay. But I didn't want to have Brandon or any of our other kids at any type of boarding places. So, I called my cousin in law from my mom's side, crying, hardly being able to catch my breath to tell her that I need her and my cousin to watch Brandon for us.

Don't get me wrong! I totally understand him taking the stance of not wanting to have Brandon around Teddy because of all the humping and growling. It could be a dangerous situation. I get that. Trust me. But the way he acted. He's usually a very nice person and he's very sweet. And he definitely treats my cousin like a princess. But today, I felt like he was a totally different person. Someone that was rude and mean! I NEVER ever thought he was like that. I was shocked to see that side of him. It was as if he was Dr.Jekyl and Mr. Hyde, all within a few minutes.

Then, my friend Jason IM'ed me and said he has to drop off a card and that he was going to be here in 15 minutes. He was here and of course, I cried my eyes out .. AGAIN!

Sigh...but just the thought of my friend coming over made me feel much much better. It was a nice way to end the day indeed. Oh yeah. He came over to give us a card. A card that we can't open until the wedding day. Good thing Mr. JB and I have Friday morning together to read this card.;)

Also, I can not be a good mom like this. Can you imagine how I would feel if it was a human kid? I would be crying everytime I hear that someone bullied my kid and made my kid at fault OR if someone rejected my kid. Sigh. A tough job being a parent.


*** I considered not writing this post because I was going to let my girl cousins read my blog after the wedding. I didn't know how CIL or Sue will react to this posting. But I thought about it some more and felt that this is MY blog -- where I vent out feeling and such. I also need to know things that happened as we get closer to the wedding. That event happened even though I wish it didn't.

**** Update at 5:15 a.m. on Tuesday: I still dont' know what was the root of me getting so upset: CIL stating that Brandon was the trouble, Brandon being rejected, the way CIL talked or what... My wound is still fresh. I couldn't sleep last night.