Inconsiderate or not... (our house accomodation dilema)

The word of the day: "inconsiderate"!!!

According to Merriam Webster, it means "heedless, thoughtless" or "careless of the rights or feelings of others".

Why am I mentioning this?

Because....

Well, let me give you a little background first. Mr. JB works all day long. And me, I don't work but I go to school full time and stress about school ALL the time. And when we sent out the invitations, I thought our families will be excited to go and book their trips. Well, that wasn't the case. They were excited to go but NOBODY took charge to book anything.

So, guess what that meant? Yeap..it meant, my controlling self took over and searched for flights and lodging and everything. I was in contact with a travel agent from the beginning and asked regarding the pricing and such. I searched and searched, hoping to find something for everyone.... Mind you, this was also while I was working my butt off in school.

And it lead me to calculate every possible situations.... What if our families rented a house? Or condos? And just buy the flight and book our car rentals? EVERY possible situations I could've thought of. I wanted everyone to enjoy their time in Maui and have a great time while trying to save money as well. I calculated every thing and priced it out for everyone. I emailed different situations with all the pricing hoping to get feedback. Well, let's just say I didn't get a lot of feedbacks. I mean, I got "book it" from my sister/brother in law and my parents, who didn't really care where they stayed as long as they are there. My brother complained a bit cuz he thought it will cost his family $10K to go there for a week. (Don't ask what he was thinking; I had to school him to say that it's not even going to cost us that much and we're going to honeymoon too.) And Mr. JB's family (his mom, younger brother and stepdad) said "oh whatever works".

After all the work of research, we realized that it will be cheaper to get the flight and car from costco and to rent a house. I mentioned this before: this place has a main house and a cottage house. The main house has 4 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms but fits 10 people. The cottage house has 1 bedroom and 1 bathroom but fits 4 people. We were going to do the following arrangement:

1. my mom and dad
2. my sister and brother in law
3. my brother and sister in law plus two kids and her mother
4. my in laws (all three of them)

and the cottage house will be for Mr. JB and I.

And my 2 aunts from my mom's side will stay with my cousin and his wife in a condo. Everyone's set, right? My only hesitant is that there'd be too many people in the main house.

So, we played with the idea of getting a condo for my in laws. But we didn't finalize anything.....

And I calculated some more as to how we were going to achieve our goals. Our goals were to make sure that people are there to have their vacation of a lifetime while maintaining comfort and being budget friendly.

And then a ranch was thrown into my pot. My cousin and his wife decided that they were no longer going. BUT both of my aunts decided they were going. Now, where am I going to put those two into our arrangements?

Mr. JB and I had a long talk about the living arrangments for everyone. And we talked some more the day after..and some more. I came up with different options.

And we decided that it was best to do the following arrangment:

1. mom and dad
2. sis and bro in law
3. two aunts
4. my in laws

that's for the main house.

And for the small cottage house, we will put my brother's family there. And Mr. JB and I will stay in a condo. This will save EVERYONE money, including us. Mr. JB and I will be paying 1/2 of what we would've paid if we stayed at the cottage and my brother's family will save about $200+. And for Mr. JB's family, staying in the main house will cost about $300 less, compared to what it would've cost if they were to stay in a one bedroom condo.

So...if anyone in my family or his family thinks that their feelings were not considered while I made these arrangements, I only have two words for them: BITE ME!!! ha ha ha. All they had to do was give me their money while I made these arrangements. I stressed about these darn arrangements while I stressed about school.

And I wouldn't have to worry about these arrangments if they all had their own money to spend as they please. But of course, during this hard economy time, not a lot of people have loads of money to spend. And I understand that COMPLETELY. BUT you also have to know that if you don't have the money to spend, you shouldn't complain too much either. Not that I'm saying you should settled for whatever....but I am saying that you should be happy to be going to Maui for the amount you're paying. Everyone is paying ~$1300 per person or less for a week vacation at Maui, which includes direct flight, place to stay and car rental. I'd say: that's a great price.

Don't get me wrong: I am appreciative of all of our family members that are going. I appreciate that they are taking their vacation time and are spending their hard earn money to go watch Mr. JB and I celebrate our love for each other...